Put Facebook down!

Have you logged onto Facebook and felt a twinge of jealousy? Or what about feeling like a failure when your stream is full of everyone else’s good news? Does it feel the whole world feels like it’s doing much better than you?

Join the club.

Facebook is a constant reminder of what we should have, where we should be heading. Even the annoying suggested app is telling us what we should like. We can’t help but pitch ourselves against each other. It’s more personal because these are the people you know, you’ve grown up with, your peers. It’s tangible. This is real life – not a piece of aspirational telly about some stranger doing better than you.

I wrote about turning 30 a few weeks ago and how it’s put the pressure on to have all the adult trappings such as a house, marriage and kids. I think Rachel from Friends nails it on the head when she says: ‘Look, y’know I know my life’s going pretty well, but I look around and I just see so many people who’ve accomplished so many other goals by the time they’re thirty.’

Comparing ourselves to each other isn’t a new thing, but I think Facebook has added to the pressure. Here in the UK, 23% of us admit to checking Facebook five times or more every day. It’s hard not to judge yourself against everybody else when we’re constantly checking Facebook and seeing  what everyone else is doing. It’s even harder to avoid temptation now that our phones have become mini computers and we become an ever more connected society.

It’s easy to say ‘don’t log onto Facebook if it makes you feel that way’, but it’s a modern way to keep in touch. It’s easy and convenient – other than for work, are you more likely to email or Facebook your mates? My hunch is you’ll Facebook someone. You’ll probably get a faster response anyway. Why? Because it’s harder to ignore a message on Facebook than email, especially when they can see that you’ve read their message (thanks a lot Facebook ‘I’ve seen your message’ tick).

But we need to remember the feed is made up of news that your friends want to you know. Facebook serves to highlight someone’s life – it’s not all of their life. Like my mum says, you never know what’s going on behind closed doors.

So the next time you’re tempted to compare yourself to the whole universe according to your Facebook world, ask yourself why you’re letting it make you feel like crap then go and do something nice for yourself.

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8 thoughts on “Put Facebook down!

  1. Yeah, that’s true! We shouldn’t get stressed out because of Facebook. It doesn’t define our life.. Nice post! 🙂 Thanks for sharing this.. 🙂

    -Jeannie

    • Thanks Jeannie. You’re so right. Facebook doesn’t define our life, but it’s very easy to forget this especially when life isn’t going the way we’ve planned.

      • You’re welcome! Yeah, it really isn’t.. 🙂 I am proud to say that I can endure a day without looking at my Fb account.. Hehe..I hope that all is well with you! 🙂

      • Haha. Well done to you 🙂 I have to say that I can’t – I’m pretty much addicted to social media, even had a career in it, but decided to take a step back for a while.

      • Hehe thanks! 🙂 I am addicted to WordPress now.. Of course, Skype is still one of my favorites! Haha.. It’s not wrong to step back once in a while.. Let’s breathe fresh air.. not some toxins that FB might offer us.. 😛

      • Out of the Facebook kitchen and into the fire with WordPress:) It’s def not a bad thing to step back. I found I was living life through a computer screen. Needed to address that.

      • Hmmm.. it’s not wrong to stop the addiction once in a while. You can go to cinemas, hangout with your friends, go to places you’ve never been to or just read.. They can make a big difference.. 🙂

        Stay connected!

        -Jeannie

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